Uncovering the Common Thread
Are you listening to what life is trying to tell you?
When you look back at all the choices you’ve made, what pattern shows up again and again in your life? What consistent thread ties together the story of your life? The central theme that connects it all?
When I look at my life, it has always been about wanting to be ‘different’. When I was 4 years old, I was super proud that I had to wear an eye patch because one of my eyes was a bit lazy. In primary school, I put a paperclip in my mouth, making it look like real braces. Call it elegant or not ;), it made me look different, and I just loved that.
The deep feeling of wanting to be different showed itself in many choices later on in my life: the decision to leave the corporate world and pursue my interest in holistic healing. The foundation of Recharge House in 2018, a place where people learned to work with their own energy system. The heartfelt call to leave my home country in 2020 to move to the beautiful island of Ibiza.
Patterns can be very beneficial and an accelerator for growth: they can help to make genuine, authentic choices that serve your purpose in life.
The other side of the coin is when (unhealthy) patterns unconsciously run the show. You see yourself repeating the same behaviour over and over again. Attracting the same unbalanced connections. Starting a new habit and then seeing yourself sliding back into the old one (Hello, New Year’s resolutions that last for 2 weeks!).
It doesn’t necessarily have something to do with discipline, commitment or the willingness to change. When you notice that - how hard you try - things don’t change, often karmic patterns are involved. These patterns can run the show while we seemingly have no control over it. It can feel exhausting, draining, and it keeps you stuck in repetitive cycles.
Karmic patterns are emotional, energetic, or behavioural patterns that originate from past experiences. These patterns - often unconscious - can influence how we think, feel, and act in the present.
‘Past experiences’ is and should be seen as a broad definition. There’s a growing number of studies that show that the effects of trauma can unconsciously be passed down to next generations, even if those later generations did not experience the trauma themselves. Does this mean that you keep attracting unavailable partners because your grandmother didn’t heal from her heartbreak? Not necessarily, but it can be beneficial to broaden your perspective here a bit. Becoming aware of certain patterns and their origin helps to understand our behaviour in the present.
The same goes for this: what is the source of the repetitive pattern? When you notice recurring patterns, it may be worthwhile to see where they come from. For example, the desire to feel different: does it come from a grounded, healthy place, or is it an unconscious pattern, trying to fulfill the times that we didn’t feel seen? A fear of being one of many? Being not so special?
Whether it’s a pattern lingering for ages in your family lineage or a rather ‘new’ one, these patterns can become your greatest friend: your ticket to your highest potential, your success, your fulfilling life. What it asks from you is: are you ready to see the lessons behind it? What is it trying to tell you? Are you ready to take the lesson, integrate it, and move forward?
When we become aware of the ‘loop’ - the unconscious patterns running our lives - and shift from autopilot to conscious choice, we can break free from what keeps us stuck and move into a more open and fulfilling phase of life.
If you’re ready to grow and let go, let’s take some time today to reflect: What’s your pattern? Your common thread?
…And is it still serving you? Or is it time to let go?
