I felt doubt creeping in…
Why uncertainty is a blessing in disguise.
A few weeks ago, I found myself juggling countless decisions, some important, some not so much. Should I take my business in this direction, or shift toward something else? Should I launch a new program now, or wait until spring?
It was exhausting. And it wasn’t getting me anywhere.
The uncertainty slowly began spilling over into my everyday life. It even reached the point of: Should I make sweet potato mash or a pizza tonight? I caught myself thinking: What is going on? Where is this inability to decide coming from? This isn’t me. This isn’t who I recognize myself to be. At the same time, I was experiencing unexplained stiffness throughout my body and a dull ache in my lower back. The body truly keeps the score when we resist seeing something important.
That was the moment I realized it wasn’t about my business or what I wanted to have for dinner. It was reflecting something deeper. Something meaningful. And what I discovered might also be meaningful for you when doubt creeps in.
Although I’m very familiar with powerful techniques to quickly regain clarity, that wasn’t what life was asking of me. Life wasn’t asking for a healing practice. Not for intervention.
It was asking me to step out of the way.
A few days later, while sipping my morning coffee in the Ibizan sun, something shifted.
What if I am exactly where I need to be? What if I’m not actually afraid of making the ‘wrong’ choice? I paused. I allowed life to move through me. I accepted the not knowing. And instantly, everything felt lighter. More intentional. As if I were being guided by an invisible hand.
Believe it or not, the stiffness in my body melted away like snow in the sun, and the ache in my lower back disappeared completely. Within minutes. It wasn’t magic. It wasn’t because I pushed harder.
It happened because I dared to step aside. Without judgment. Without resistance.
No ‘I don’t want to be here’. No ‘I need to fix this right now’.
So what did happen - and how can this serve you too?
Let’s turn to Socrates, the classical Greek philosopher, who said, ‘I know that I know nothing’. He wasn’t pointing to weakness. He was pointing to the beginning of wisdom. By admitting we don’t know, we release false certainty and make space for real insight. There is room for curiosity. For wonder. Not knowing becomes a form of inner freedom: nothing to prove, only something to discover.
When you allow yourself not to know, space opens for something greater to move through you, often with better ideas and wiser direction than the mind alone could create.
In this space you’re not resisting the waves of life, but you’re not drowning in them either. It doesn’t mean staying on the couch with a bag of chips if you genuinely want to grow. It means stepping slightly aside. Creating space for the bigger picture. This movement rarely comes from the mind’s pressure of ‘I must do this or that’. Instead, it arises from a quiet knowing: I am exactly where I need to be. I wonder what this moment is here to teach me.
From that place, movement happens naturally.
It won’t feel gray or passive. The pull of life force that arises from this space is unmistakable. But: it asks you to listen and consequently, to move. And trust me, you’ll want to. It feels like joy. Spacious. You’ll want to move.
It’s here, where you’re invited to act without forcing.
In Taoist philosophy, this is called Wu Wei: effortless action. It means:
Moving with instead of pushing against
Letting go instead of gripping
Trusting timing and natural flow.
As much as we like control - and as comforting as it can feel - life more often asks us to release it. Why? Because control is an illusion of safety. True strength, as Socrates reminds us, comes from self-knowledge and surrendering what we cannot steer.
That morning in the sun, I realized I had stepped back into a state of Wu Wei. Everything felt effortless, as if life itself was carrying me. It’s a state I’ve experienced before, but I had briefly lost touch with it. Sometimes we need discomfort to see where we’re gripping too tightly. To recognize where we’re forcing. To feel it - and then step aside.
One single moment. One decision inside indecision. And my entire perspective shifted.
Doubt has a purpose. My doubt led me straight back into the flow of life.
And I wish that for you, too.
On 15 March, 8 pm, I’ll guide a Live Zoom session ‘Step into the space where striving softens and flow begins’. If the above touches something within you, you are very welcome to join.
